Four Steps to Make Your Meetings More Engaging and Enjoyable
The email comes in, meeting next Tuesday, 2 pm, Agenda attached. What happens for you?
A, your heart lift with joy and excitement at the magic that you are going to create in that meeting?
B, does it plummet with the thought of sitting through yet another painful meeting where you don’t feel like you have a say and nothing ever seems to come of the hours you spend in never-ending discussion.
I would love to think that it was option A, your heart soaring at the idea of what you can create, but I know that unfortunately, the option B is a lot more common. Today I would like to share with you four steps to get more heart soaring and less heart plummeting.
Catching the plummet
So why do you go to the meetings in the first place? Maybe you have to for your job; maybe you have to to get something to happen, perhaps you have to because ‘stupidly’ you signed up to do it.
First thing I will ask you to do is to go on a mind hunt for all the ‘have to’s that you are thinking. Notice when you say ‘have to’ regarding the meeting when you think have to. Whenever it has that energy, you are going to walk into it feeling like you have to drag yourself. Let’s catch those moments of ‘have to’.
Find the why
Next, I want you to zoom out to the bigger why. What excites you about the potential of the committee/team? What are you collectively trying to get done? What have you got to offer the group? And, what has the group got to provide you with? Now the trickiest part of this is to stay in the positive and the possibility with this. If you feel yourself heading off into the negative/problem, side of things, stop, breathe and got back to the bigger why, bigger possibilities. If you can, come up with a little statement about your why for these meetings like “I really want to see the local business community thrive.”
What excites you about the potential of the committee/team?
Switch the vibe
Now here comes the on-going part, and the part that makes a huge difference. Each time that you have a case of the ‘have to’s, the ‘what is the point’s or the heart plummets, when it comes to thinking about the meeting, switch it with your why statement. It would go something like this. “oh no I have to go to another meeting… YES AND I want to see the local business community thrive” and see how that changes your outlook for the meeting.
Share the vision
This one will supercharge the vibe of your meeting. Set an agenda item that explores ‘the why’ of your whole group. Why is each person in the room part of it? Here are the questions to look at again as a group
- What excites you about the potential of this committee/team?
- What are you collectively trying to get done?
- What have you got to offer the group?
- And, what has the group got to offer you?
In a group, you can have a ‘downer police’. Have a couple of people who call it out when the vision starts to be dragged down by all the things that aren’t working. You can always look at these later. However, we all do love to talk about problems and your why session will quickly regress into a ‘why not’ meeting if you don’t take extra care.
At the end of the session, summaries everyone’s whys into what will become a vision statement. This summary can be a powerful way to start each meeting and keep you working towards where you want to go.
There is a lot more that you can do to improve the effectiveness of your meetings. If you would like to talk to me about what is happening in your meetings specifically, book in for a free 30-minute chat and we can see what is happening and what else you can do to have the hearts of your team or committee’s heart soar. Book a time here to find a time to talk about your meetings.
Trish Everett is a mindset coach and communication geek with a passion for creating workplaces that people love to work at. She is also a lecturer of Wellness Coaching at RMIT uni and is passionate about conversations that bring positive change.
I just looked up your website.. wow impressive.
I enjoyed our CBW session, that felt a bit short and slightly rushed when we got to the difficult parts for CBW..( ie moving forward..)
I would love to learn some of this approach from you… about being more effective in meetings and communication in groups.
I have facilitated different things over the years, and I always see myself as a leader of sorts… And I need a few more skills to be able to enact myself in the world more effectively, visibly and to join the dots in my mind and others .
I saw somewhere earlier on your website the offer of a free 1 on 1 session trial.?
Is that still on offer.?
I am in the place for reinvention of self.. so seems like an opportune time to grow some more skills.
love Skye xx